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Breadcrumbing. A pattern of communication in which one party offers periodic, minimal contact (likes, low-effort texts, occasional flirty messages) that signals interest without any intention of building a substantive relationship. The contact is enough to keep the recipient engaged but not enough to move toward connection.
Where the term comes from
The term was coined in the dating-discourse press in 2017, with Lindsay Dodgson at Insider providing one of the most-cited early definitions. It is part of a wider cluster of late-2010s vocabulary (ghosting, orbiting, benching) that emerged specifically from dating-app behavioral patterns.
How it shows up in real life
Someone you dated for three weeks two years ago likes your beach photo on Instagram on a Sunday evening. Six weeks later they send a one-line text reading miss your face. You reply warmly; they go quiet for two months. Then another like. The contact is just enough to keep you considering them and never enough for anything to actually happen. That is breadcrumbing.
Common misuses
The term is sometimes applied to genuinely busy people whose communication is sparse for logistical reasons. The diagnostic distinction is intent and pattern: breadcrumbing is a pattern of contact engineered specifically to maintain low-cost optionality, not the natural sparseness of a busy life. Mutual low-frequency contact between two equally invested people is not breadcrumbing.
