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When you are in the game of swiping right or left on Tinder, it can all seem easy. It might even seem like it is easier than the traditional way of asking someone out. The ball drops when you have to send the first message to someone.
The first message will set the entire tone for you. Nowadays, the dating world is fast-paced and often cutthroat. Many people take their first message lightly and end up never getting a reply.
I know that it seems like there is a lot of pressure, but it is not an impossible feat. Today, I will show you the ropes of the trade. There are many ways to approach a match on Tinder, but it is always good to have a strategy.
Tips For Ice Breaking
Just like in real life, ice-breaking works in online dating too. Conversing is truly an art. If you are looking to make a lasting impression on your match, here are a couple of tips to follow:
- Start off politely and slowly. You do not want to seem too eager. Aggressive ice-breaking tends to ruin the whole vibe.
- You can open with humor. As long as it is tasteful and brilliant, go ahead.
- Always make sure to give a proper introduction.
- The cool restrained act is not a good way to break the ice. You want to let the person know that you are interested in them.
- Always show interest, but don't scare them off with too many questions.
Tinder Pick-Up Lines That Actually Works
Now comes the time when I show you how it's done. I have gathered quite a lot of examples o different kinds of openers. Pick the ones that you like. You can edit them to suit who you are.
Best Ice Breakers You Can Copy + Paste
Here you will find all the icebreakers that I love. Since everyone's taste differs, it is possible that they might not tickle your senses but they are pretty decent.
- Damn, your bio is so witty! I’ve gotta up my own game.
- Hi, how was heaven when you left it?
- What is your favorite thing to do in (your location)?
- I need it to work out between us because you have to show me where the epic place in your pictures is.
- Do you have a map? Because I'm lost in your eyes.
- Hey, wanna steal my comfiest hoodie?
- Hey, I matched with you because you seem interesting. And hey, I’m also really into {inset here}. When was the last time you did something truly spontaneous?
- *A wild 10/10 has appeared* I better use a cutie ball on this one.
- If I were a stop light, I'd turn red every time you passed by, just so I could stare at you a bit longer.
- Are you a dictionary? Because you add meaning to my life.
- How bold is bold, darling? Gotta tell you, I eat my cereal with water, is there anything bolder than that?
- Is your name Wi-Fi? Because I'm feeling a connection.
- What do you like talking about with the people you’ve just met? As for me, I always start talking about global warming. Isn’t that a real icebreaker?
- Are you a country road? Cause I'd like you to take me home.
- Is it too awkward to start talking to you like this?
- Is your name Google? Because you have everything I'm searching for.
- Are you religious? Because you're the answer to all my prayers.
- Are you a campfire? Because you are hot and I want to be near you.
- Are you a bank loan? Because you got my interest.
- Did you go to the Sun? Because you sure are shining!
Funny Ice Breakers
Everyone loves humor, just in different doses. In light of that, we will be trying some humorous icebreakers.
- How did Harry Potter get down the hill?
Walking
Jk… Rolling - Knock knock, (who’s there?). Hawaii, (Hawaii who?). I’m fine, Hawaii you?
- *Panics about what message to send you, hopes that you give me a break* So, hey, how about this weather?
- I’m jealous of that dog of yours. He looks like he’s got some serious cuddling skills. Think he’ll teach me a trick, or two?
- Apparently, you have good taste, (name) because you swiped right on me.
- I’m an owl by myself, how about you?
- I’d message you but my mom always taught me never to talk to strangers.
- I’ve spent the last week trying to come up with an icebreaker and so far all I’ve got is "hey".
- Tinder says my lonely days are over once I say "hey" so... hey.
- What time did the man go to the dentist? Tooth hurty-y.
- A ham sandwich walks into a bar and orders a beer. The bartender says, "sorry, we don’t serve food here."
- Call me Rudolph because you just sleighed me!
- Do you know what's weird? Our whole lives, we taste our own tongues and become pretty desensitized to the feeling as we grow up.
- Do you live in an igloo? Because you seem like a pretty cool person.
- Hello, I really thought you were the nicest girl I met in the last five minutes.
- You know, I already see what the two of us have in common- you have no idea what I’m going to say next, and neither do I.
- How did the picture end up in jail? It was framed!
- What’s the difference between a hippo and a zippo? One is really heavy and the other is a little lighter.
- When a deer said to a bear, I’m gonna fight you with my bear hands, the bear replied Oh deer.
Question Ice Breakers
The most common type of icebreaker is questions. It is a way to show the next person that you want to get to know them.
- What was the most indulgent item that you bought this year?
- What are your pet peeves?
- What is your favorite TV or streaming show right now?
- I see you like horses. Very cool. Are you a kick-ass rodeo girl, or more the kind who rides bareback through the woods like a woodland spirit?
- Can I take you out on a first date in this snow? I wanna show you I’m not a flake-y person.
- Would you rather be very active or a lazy couch potato, given the choice?
- Where have you traveled?
- What artists are on your favorite playlists?
- What is the best part of your day?
- You declare a three-day weekend. Are you heading for the mountains, the beach, or sleeping till noon?
- I want to go out … where are we going?
- If we got married, where would you take me on a honeymoon?
Cheesy Ice Breakers
Cheesiness can be everyone's cup of tea if done right. From the below examples, learn how to dispense it properly.
- I don’t usually give compliments to people I meet right away, but you have excellent taste in men.
- Are you a magician? Because when I look at you, everyone else disappears! Damn.
- Sounds like you have an ace personality. Ever thought of starting up your own YouTube channel?
- Are you religious? Because you’re the answer to all my prayers!
- 286 Miles? God damn, you're attractive but I ain't no Forest Gump (change the number of miles accordingly).
- Restaurant or cozy cooking together on our first date?
- If I was the grinch, I wouldn't steal Christmas. I'd steal you.
- Nice profile. Why don’t we have a date yet?
- All I want for Christmas is…
- We’ll just lie to your parents later how we met. Deal?
- Hey, I don’t know if we match but you seem like an interesting combination of tough and gentle.
- Do you believe in love on the first swipe? I do now.
- You’re so hot that you’ve even melted my icebreaker.
- You should have known how many times I had to move to the left to see such a cute girl like you.
- You’re so adorable, that you made me forget the rest of my icebreaker.
- You seem so purrfect.
- Would you like to hear my koalafications or they are completely irrelephant to you?
Creative Ice Breakers
People might not like a know-it-all but they sure do appreciate creative people. Through your icebreakers, show how your creative brain works.
- Titanic. Well, that’s the icebreaker outta the way. How are you doing?
- Would you rather have Joe Exotic’s haircut from ‘Tiger King’ or Edna Mode’s haircut from ‘The Incredibles?
- Thanks for being my 100th match! You win a prize. Wanna find out what it is?
- Wow! You look VERY cute. And your human doesn’t look too bad either! (If she has a pet)
- I see that your Tinder bio is empty! I’ve been told I’m very good at writing Tinder bios. Want me to write yours for you? I promise not to say that you’ve got the hots for me.
- Bot check: say potato.
- I bet, I can make you share food…I can be very convincing…
- If we go to a masquerade, I’ll be the Clark Kent to your Louis Lane.
- Nowadays, there are married couples whose how we met story goes, "we swiped right then he asked me to marry him". I'm not going to ask but it's tempting.
- Hey, do you have any secret tips for me on a first Tinder date?
- The feeling when you see a cute girl on Tinder and all you can think to say to her is the generic hello. So... hello.
- Do you ever lay looking up at the stars and think of how many messed up things are there in the world? I still cannot decipher- why is there a D in the fridge, but the refrigerator hasn’t got one?
- I’m reading a book about anti-gravity. It’s impossible to put down.
- How is a lazy kangaroo called? A Pouch Potato.
Daring One's
Daring pick up lines need to be handled very carefully. They are bold and if done right, will make you seem confident. If handled wrong, it can even offend the person. Peruse the examples with open eyes.
- Damn you’re so hot I totally forgot my icebreaker.
- Was your dad a boxer? Because damn, you’re a knockout!
- Is your dad a terrorist? Cause you’re the BOMB.
- I see you like to try new restaurants. Where would you suggest for our third date?
- I’ve been burned by SO many bots on here recently so please can you type your number out so that I know you’re genuine and real? Honestly, it’s the ONLY way I can verify you’re real because a bot wouldn’t know your number.
- Clearly you haven’t met your match yet. I’d totally win the race. Or at the very least: we’d hit the finish line even (wink emoji).
- Even Santa doesn’t make candy as sweet as you.
- Wanna Smash?
S: spend quality time together
M: Make memories
A: art stuff together
S: smile and laugh
H: hold hands - Hey, I’m not looking for sex. Hugs though. Do you want to be my cuddle buddy?
- Hi, what would you do with me if you could get away with it with impunity?
- Whenever I undress in the bathroom… My shower gets turned on.
How Not to Break the Ice?
During my brief time on Tinder, I have come across some truly horrifying icebreakers. It taught me that not everyone understands how to use openers properly. I will show you what not to do when you are conversing with your match on Tinder for the first time.
- Instead of: You free tonight?
Use this: Hey, I am (insert your name here). Your profile seems interesting, especially the (say what you liked about the profile).
Why: the example is incredibly rude and crass. You should first introduce yourself, then follow it up with the actual conversation. If you want to ask them out, do it when they seem ready. - Instead of: I am open-minded.
Use this: maintain a conversation that shows your personality traits.
Why: simply saying that you're open-minded sounds shallow and fake. Moreover, ask yourself what would prompt you to make such a proclamation.
How to Keep the Conversation Going?
The best way to do this is to read the signals that the next person is giving off. Many dating coaches advise their clients to keep messaging the match and throw one joke or clever tactic after another, but that's a big no. You only need to be yourself. Make sure to be respectful, charming, and be the interesting person that you are. If it is meant to be, it will happen.
You can also use conversation starter questions like philosophical questions or weird funny questions to keep the conversation going.
Tinder can be rough but you should keep your head high. It will take you some tries to find the icebreakers that you will be comfortable with. I have faith in you that you will figure it all out.
