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Friendship divorce. The conscious, often explicit, ending of a close adult friendship. Distinct from a friendship fading or going dormant: a friendship divorce is decided and named. VibeLovely's preferred term in body prose is friendship breakup, with friendship divorce treated as a popular alias.
Where the term comes from
The phrase rose in usage in the 2010s, mirroring the shape of romantic-relationship language to take adult friendships seriously as relationships that can be entered, maintained, and ended. Academic work on friendship dissolution (Hess; Fehr; Adams and Allan) predates the popular phrasing by decades.
How it shows up in real life
Two friends of fifteen years. One had a child; the other has not. The investment ratios drifted. After a year of one-sided effort, the unparented friend names it: she is stepping back, she is sad, she is not angry, she is not asking for a response. That is a friendship divorce. The relationship may or may not return. The ending was decided.
Common misuses
The term gets used loosely for any friendship that has cooled. A friendship divorce specifically involves a deliberate decision to end the relationship, usually communicated. A friendship that fades without anyone deciding anything is a fade, not a divorce. Avoid using the term retroactively to dramatize endings that were never explicit.
