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Attachment styles. A psychological framework, originally developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, that categorizes the patterns through which people form and maintain close relationships. The four adult-attachment categories are secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant (sometimes called disorganized).
Where the term comes from
Attachment theory emerged from John Bowlby’s work in the 1950s and 1960s on early parent-child bonds, then was extended to adult romantic relationships by Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver in their 1987 paper. The four-category adult-attachment framework is now widely used in couples therapy and relationship research, though it has its critics among personality psychologists who argue attachment is dimensional rather than categorical.
How it shows up in real life
Secure attachment shows up as ease with closeness, comfort with conflict, ability to be apart without anxiety. Anxious-preoccupied attachment shows up as fear of abandonment, hypervigilance to partner’s mood, intensity in early-relationship phases. Dismissive-avoidant shows up as discomfort with emotional closeness, preference for independence, withdrawal under stress. Fearful-avoidant combines features of the latter two: wanting closeness but afraid of it.
Common misuses
Attachment styles get treated in pop coverage as fixed personality types. They are patterns, not types — they can change with experience, with therapy, with a different relationship. The framework is also misused to diagnose a partner from outside the relationship (“you’re obviously avoidant”), which is not what the research supports.
